I Regret to Inform You… Your Identity May Be in Someone Else’s Hands

35 years of leadership ended in one meeting—but the loss became a launchpad for greater purpose and impact.

Step One: The Unexpected “Letter”

There are moments in leadership when the ground shifts beneath your feet—when the story you thought you were writing takes a turn you never saw coming.

Recently, I interacted with David, a man who had spent 35 years at the same company, rising to become its president.

He poured his energy, his vision, and—over decades—his very identity into that business. Like many leaders, he assumed he’d finish his career there, guiding the company into its next chapter.

But then, the “letter” arrived.

The new private equity owners called him in and delivered the news:

“We regret to inform you… your services are no longer needed.”

And just to make the message unmistakable, they added:“Your administrative assistant will train your successor.”

It was a moment that would floor anyone.

35 years of loyalty and leadership, swept aside in an instant—by someone else’s decision.

Here’s the hard truth:Sometimes, the loss of your identity isn’t in your hands.

It can come from a boardroom decision, a change in ownership, or simply the passage of time. Sometimes, the answers—and the endings—come from others.

But this isn’t just a story of loss.

That same leader, after the shock wore off, found himself at a crossroads.

What felt like a dead end became a new beginning.

He went on to lead development for a global mission organization—discovering a sense of purpose and impact he’d never imagined.

His 35 years of experience prepared him for a season of significance he couldn’t have planned.

The lesson?We don’t always control the timing or the terms of our transitions.

But we do control how we respond.

Sometimes, what feels like rejection is actually redirection—a chance to finish well in a new way.

As Dave Ramsey puts it:

“Succession planning can feel strange to think about, especially when you’re still leading and still love the work. But part of running a business well is making sure it can stand on its own long after you’re gone.”

If you’re facing a crossroads—or want to be ready when one comes—remember:

Your legacy isn’t just about how you lead, but how you let go.

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